Life, Society, Men in Skirts & More - Front Page
This site is primarily about men in skirts but does cover other aspects of gender issues even those not directly affected by me. These are my views, factual, informative and to me balanced and fair.
With gender issues I'm Egalitarian - "believe in the principle that people are equal and deserve equal rights/opportunities". Androgyny, the combination of male and female characteristics - is that not the modern woman these days? I stand by 'what's good for the goose is good for the gander'
Be yourself because a copy is worth more than an original.
Women in this modern era, and quite rightly so, demand and expect individuality, freedom of choice, freedom of expression, not to be bound by stereotypical expectations and labels and society these days on the whole, not all, provide it and if anyone challenges this they are questioned and at times chastised publicly. With regards men, most of this same people and society still confine men to expected stereotypical expectaions and roles. There are movements and campaigns challenging why in some areas of society only a small number of women partake in and try to change this under equality not asking if many women actually do not want that particular aspect of society. Not with men, there is no support for men who wish to break from stereotypical image and expectations like women do and have or embrace certain areas of society which are still to this day, and not questioned, female dominated as society does for women in this modern era. There is a drive in society these days that to look macho, behave macho is the way to succeed and a requirement, a rite of passage. Well I and quite a few men are not. Your personality and how you behave in life defines you, not your appearance, clothing, job, car, house etc. My stance as a man is how I choose to appear with regards clothing. My right, my choice. There are many men out their like this but sadly hide behind closed doors, dare not even let their thoughts and feelings out for fear of society expectations. Many men on a men in skirts forum and other internet outlets openly say they refrain from it for this fear and many even say their wives and partners forbifd it yet still claim their freedom of choice. Society is full of hypocracy and bigotry, but I stand up to this and within my own personal life free myself. I am a better and contented person since than ever before. I note society comments via many media forms on men in skirts but I also note what I expereince within my own life with those I associate with and those who will interact with me.
A few interesting quotes:
"There's no sin like being a woman. When a man dresses as a woman, the audience laughs. When a woman dresses like a man, no body laughs. They just thought she looked wonderful."
Quentin Crisp 1908 - 1999
As Archbishop Desmund Tutu said "I am because you are" applying the philosophy of Ubuntu.
"...taboos can change swiftly..." and "...like societies of everywhere, we mock the taboos of others yet fail to see the absurdity of our own..."
18th July, 2014 Anne Atkins Thought for the Day - BBC Radio 4.
"...you don't need human rights until you need them. Everybody loves their own human rights; it's just other people's that are problematic."
25th October 2014 Shami Chakrabarti part of an interview with The Independent Magazine.
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind"
Bernard M Baruch: 1870 - 1965
"It is better to be hated for what you are than be loved for what you are not"
Andre Gide: 1869 - 1951
"Evolution has yet to transend that simple barrier. We can care deeply, selflessly about those we know but that empathy rarely extends beyond our line of sight"
From the film Interstella 2015
The rest of this site expands on the above in much more detail and at times is direct, blunt and to the point but that is down to society and its selfish and narrow minded attitudes.
I openly admit I am a man in a skirt, a man who invades the female wardrobe with regards clothing that are suitable to wear as a man in a skirt that offers character, personality and compliments the skirt, eg tops, scarves, cardigans etc. I do so as freedom of choice, freedom of expression just like the vast majority of women these days who adopt male style clothing. These same women who can enjoy freedom of choice under society labels due to earlier women making a stand when this freedom was denied and put on society labelled mens clothes. Actually some women these days still do but society turns a blind eye just as it does on many aspects for women. In an era of gender equality I firmly believe many labels and expectations by society for men or women should be dropped.
I do not presume 100% understanding from others. What is in life if you look at it without blinkered vision. Since going public in 2011 I have had no direct physical negativity. The vast majority just pass by or engage at the time with no reference either way. I do get a small minority, it is small minority, who make negative body language, giggle or make it known they are talking about me and these are 99% women in male style clothing and embracing full freedom of choice with the expectation of no comment at them regardless of body and or clothing appearance. I get far more compliments and positive reference than the negative. What might be said away from me? - that applies to many aspects of life. I certainly have private thoughts on others only showing disdain if I receive it. I stand by mutual respect and tolerance.
With regards men in skirts and other clothing society insist on labelling as womens but anywear for women, if anyone questions a womans clothing choice or appearance uproar follows. It is seen as questioning the woman, denying her rights. It questions the woman as being a individual, true to herself. Swap it around to a man and the complete opposite stance is taken by soicety and this happens in many other areas of life not just clothing.
How much of the women's wardrobe these days takes on the style, appearance even actual physical items from the wardrobe which society confines men too? How many of these items specifically designed for men decades ago now are considered unisex items? Jeans, t-shirts to name but two. Unisex items designed in other westernised countries here in UK adopted as female only? If a man moves into the female wardrobe he's a crossdresser, consider dysfunctional, has many terms like faggot, queer etc but not for women. It is the usual society hypocriscy and bigotry which occurs in many aspects of life especially with gender expectation or desires.
It is considered Domestic Violence, if a partner questions her clothing or appearance even abuse, if by a third party, yet it is fair game for many women to do the same about men even by their partners. Even the UN aligns itself in this area and the EU claims 33% of women in Europe suffer Domestic Violence and includes negaitvity towards their clothing choice.
There is an internet forum for men who were skirts or other clothing assigned by society as womens wear. On this forum many men say their partners/wives forbid them breaking the labels and expectations of men in clothing yet they themselves embrace the full freedom of choice now available to women at one time denied by society.
It is human intelligence and the obsession that anything male, or can be adopted from male environments is a sign of power, influence, recognition, dominance over others. This is achieved by persona, not clothes or appearance. I cover this and the religious comments in far more detail on this site. Freedom of choice and expression, not just in clothing/appearance applies equally to both genders in this modern era. If labels and stereotyping are not allowed for women then the same applies to men. You do not have gender equality otherwise. If men are still to be labelled and stereotyped in clothing and appearance then the same must and should apply to women.
If a man wears a skirt of other clothing society labels as womens wear he therefore must be a cross dresser, who really is the crossdresser? The modern woman in jeans, other styles of trousers, shoes, ties, hats etc that men are confined to or men like me? Is it not the men in trousers, jeans, shoes, ties hats etc that the vast majority of women now wear at one time frowned upon by society? If I am a crossdresser surely I would not wear clothing as depicted on this site!
Is society tolerant and respectful? In certain quarters some members are but listening and monitoring society across the spectrum of life over many years I consider society is tolerant and respectful in words only, and with regards actions depending upon the situation or so long as it suits their ethos and demands in life.